Parenting is not a simple and straightforward thingy.
You learn through trial and error, and pray very, very hard in between.
But, more often than not, the love that we have for our kids will guide us through it all, insya Allah.
There are so many parenting tips that we get everyday, be it from well-intent friends and relatives, or from all the parenting books out there - books that we have to pay for unnecessarily sometimes.
Out of all the tips given to us parents, there are some which Ayah and I truly believe in. Two of which are :-
(1) You should always try to reward your kids for their achievements, and the reward should be something that your kids really appreciate or yearn for, so that they will feel that all their hard work and efforts were all worth it, and the reward will act as an incentive for them to strive harder and do better next time.
(2) In order for you to understand your kids better, you should try to understand the stuff that they like, and try to think the way they do, and sometimes you should engage in activities that your kids are into.
And tonight - Ayah scored full marks for both of the above.
Just as I am typing this, Ayah and Hanna are at Stadium Merdeka watching the MCR Concert.
For those who do not have any teenage kids, and so probably would not have heard, and would not know what "MCR" is, it stands for -
MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE
YUP!!! Ayah is at a Rock concert with Hanna!
Some of you might not agree with all these, but, oh well...
Hanna had been dropping hints for the last month or so about the concert and the possibility of her going with her friends (and their above-18 siblings, etc), but Ayah and I were not sure if we should let her go. Hanna had been asking and asking and asking and asking about it - that she sounded like a broken tape-recorder and she was starting to get on our nerves. Even though she did not sulk and was quite okay with it when we didn't say "Yes", we knew that she was disappointed.
We have been dilly-dallying about it, and finally we decided that this would be the reward for Hanna for getting all A's for her UPSR. The Concert was something that she REALLY wanted to go to.
Ayah managed to get 3 tickets, but, as I have been and still am bogged down with work, I decided not to join at the eleventh hour, and so Aunty Adek (my SIL) is now shouting and screaming herself hoarse in my place at Stadium Merdeka right this second.
What better way for a father to understand his daughter's taste in music than going to a concert with her, eh?!
Hanna, dear...You might think that it's NOT cool to go to a rock concert with your Ayah now...but, you will look back to tonight when you're older and I'm sure you will then agree with me when I say that your Ayah RAAAAAAWWWWWWKKKKKKK BIG TIME!!
And you should really appreciate and be grateful that for the love of his anak perempuan sulung yang sorang ni, your Ayah sanggup chaperone you to the MCR Concert tonight...
I hope you know just how much he loves you, dear...
P/S : Just for the record - I only went to my first Rock Concert when I was 21 years old, okay? It was BON JOVI... The venue - Wembley Arena. The feeling - AWESOME...