Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Good riddance...

Her name was Anis.

She was the replacement maid whom we got after four months of me being maidless in Sri Damansara. There was no contract between us. The deal was - we had to pay the introducer some RMxxx, and we pay Anis RMxxx every month. No strings attached.

Apparently she had been working on this modus operandi since 1997. She could go anytime she wanted, and we could terminate her service anytime we wanted.

We got her on 13 March 2010, and within a day of working with us, I got to know the A to Z of all her previous employers. Why she didn't like or liked working with them, why she left the job(s), etc.

The first two days, I found her to be too talkative, and as if she was laying down HER terms with me indirectly.

Example 1 - she told me that she once worked with a Chinese family who lived in a BIG house, but her job was easy because rumah "tu tak bersepah". And I felt that she was hinting at me that my house WAS bersepah! And I remember cursing underneath my breath - "Of courselah rumah aku bersepah, mangkuk! I had been maidless for nearly 4 months then. What do you expect?! It is YOUR job to unsepah my house, woman!!!

Example 2 - she told me that she once worked whereby she had to take care of an elderly couple, and she hated it.

Example 3 - she told me that she once worked with a family but, she didn't like the mother-in-law whom she said always "interfered" in her job. My take on this was that the MIL was not happy with the way the job was done by the maid around the house and was merely telling her on how to do things right. And she didn't like that. Indirectly telling me NOT to tell her what to do.

Example 4 - she told me that she once worked with a certain "Tan Sri", and the Tan Sri was really nice, but, she didn't like the Puan Sri because the Puan Sri was really fussy. Hinting to me that I should not be fussy like the Puan Sri (?!)

And the list goes on and on. You got my drift?

And on the second day, after telling me all her working experiences, while at the same time subtly "laying down all her terms" etc., she suddenly became very quiet and non-responsive! It was just so damn hard to get her to react or respond to any of our requests, etc.

She never uttered a word whenever I asked her or give her instructions on what to do and how to do things around the house.

Example - "Anis, bawang ini nanti, kamu tolong potong dadu, okay?"

And she would continue doing whatever she was doing (washing dishes, etc) without acknowledging what I had said to her. And I would then repeat myself again until I was sure that she actually heard me, and she then responded, "Iya, iya, kakak! Saya dengar tadi!" Sounding annoyed with me!

Many a times when my kids asked her for help, she would raise her voice and asked them to do the things themselves!

Example - Hilman would ask her where his baju sukan and seluar sukan were (as the maid would be the one who either washed/ironed/folded and kept them), and she would just tell him at the top of her voice, "Carilah sendiri dalam bilik!" And Hilman would come to me and tell me that he had tried looking for them at the normal places but he could not find them anywhere. And we then found his baju sukan and seluar sukan kept in his baju tidur drawers.

She would also tengking my kids if they put the cushions on the carpet while watching TV in the living room! What the...??!! My kids couldn't even lepak and enjoy watching TV at home! She even pushed Hasya's head once! Pantang nenek moyang I!!

And the third day she was with us, our ASTRO decoder ranap. We came back one evening and found the channel set/fixed at the "Pay Per View" Menu and we could not access any of the regular channels! The decoder ranap. The remote control also ranap!

And since she came, my microwave has also rosak and whatever mode we now use, it can never go beyond 59 seconds. So, if I need to cook something for 10 minutes, I would have to wait in front of the microwave and re-start it everytime it hits 59 seconds. So, that means 9 times of re-starting the damn thing over 10 minutes!

And I once found the blender LEAKING while she was using it!

I know some would say that I should understand that some of the maids had never used all the elctrical appliances, etc., and that is why we have to be patient with them while they learn how to use them.

But, this Anis surely could not use the same excuse as she had been working in Malaysia for the last 15 years!

And lagi satu pantang nenek moyang I - she suka sangat buang makanan!

Many a times I found rice and leftover lauk in the bin. And once I caught her pouring the Chicken Korma which I just cooked a couple of hours before that, into the sink. Mind you, there were still 4-5 chicken pieces left, with some potatoes and carrots in it! And when I asked her why she was throwing the korma which was still good, she said "Saya tak suka lauk ini!"

WTF?! I didn't cook the dish for you, you *&%$#!!*!! Even if you didn't like it, my family could still eat it, you *%^$#@!*!!!

Menggelegak hati I!! But, me being me - I just tegur with a slightly raised voice.

I guess, tu yang dia naik kepala tu!

She slept at 9:30p.m or latest - at 10:00p.m, irrespective of whether Ayah dah balik from work or not, or whether Ayah has had his dinner or not! So, Ayah being Ayah, he would normally come back after 10:00p.m, and I would set the table and prepare his dinner and later tidied up the kitchen, etc. A few times Ayah had asked me to just leave everything for the maid to do in the morning when she woke up. Sometimes I would do that. But, sometimes, if I larat, I would just clean everything up myself. Malas nak tengok sink with dirty dishes. But, if I was not up to it - I would just leave everything as it was. And the next morning you could see the maid tarik muka when she saw the dirty dishes.

She woke up at 5:30a.m every morning - the same time as me. And if you do your maths right, that would be EIGHT hours of sleep every night, whereas yours truly only got an average of 4 1/2 or 5 hours of sleep! Siapa yang boss sebenarnya, kan?

The only thing she did when she woke up would be to set the breakfast table, and dump the washing into the washing machine, while I do the cooking. She would then sweep and mop the floor while waiting for the washing cycle to finish, after which she would hang everything in the backyard.

I would leave for work around 9:00a.m, and most of the times the kids and I would only come home after 7:00p.m. That would be TEN hours of being left alone. TEN long hours alone at home while I was at work.

Apart from folding and ironing the clothes, you tell me what else would she be doing in that TEN hours...

She really got it easy working with us.

I also found her very rude and she had no respect for us.

But, I kept my patience as I fikir and bersyukur that at least she was helping me out around the house, and more importantly, she was doing the damn laundry for me - the whole package of washing, drying, folding and ironing for me! So, I tutup sebelah mata aje to some of the things which would have driven me up against the wall in a different circumstances.

It's true what they say - beggars can't be choosers...

Many a times I felt like firing her and sending her back to her SIL's place in Kg Sungai Kayu Ara (which is just sepelaung from our house!), but, selalu tak sampai hati coz' I pitied her as I knew that she needed the job and money. (And of course, I needed her to do my laundry, too ;)Hehehe!)

The kids didn't like her. They called her "The Wicked Witch" as she had this really shrieking high-pitched voice. Ayah didn't like her, too, simply because he felt that I was doing things around the house more than the maid did! But, he kept quiet as he knew that whatever it was, at least I had some help around the house.

The arrangement was for the maid to have cuti once in one or two months, so, I was not surprised when she suddenly told me last Friday that she wanted to go back to her SIL's place on Saturday, and that I could then fetch her on Sunday night. She TOLD me to send her at 1:00p.m on Saturday.

Came Saturday, Ayah and I and the kids took our time in the afternoon as we wanted to wait for Edisi 7 on NTV7 which was airing an interview I did on some current issues. We were just waiting in front of the telly when the maid suddenly came down the stairs and halfway down she just asked me "Kakak! Bila mau hantar saya balik?!"

Tak ke kurang ajar?! Why couldn't she come down and ask nicely instead of literally shouting at me from the staircase?!

Ayah masa tu dah meluap-luap dah, and if I hadn't been there, mau dah kena penampar Minah tu there and then!

We sengaja took our time after that because we were so bengang with the maid, and we only left the house at 2:15p.m after solat Zohor.

On the way, I asked her how much money she wanted for belanja. I offered to give her only RM400 and she insisted that I gave her her full gaji. Ayah was reluctant as he was afraid that the maid would run away and not come back.

But, for me, I'd rather pay her whatever wages she had earned, and if she decided to not come back, at least I didn't owe her anything. So, I gave her her one month pay (FYI, we had already given her half a month pay at the end of March, i.e exactly 2 weeks after she started working with us as she claimed that she needed to give the money to her brother who had to go back to Indonesia to berubat kena buatan orang, etc. Ladida dida... They can really come up with most amazing tales, kan?) But, well...

Anyway, we dropped her off at Kg Sg Kayu Ara on Saturday afternoon.

And on Sunday afternoon, I got this SMS from her -

"Assalamualikum! Kak saya anis, saya tak mau kerja lagi dg kakak. Saya tak dikasi sama kakak ipar...saya mau kerja restron"

And I tell you, I had never felt so relieved hearing the news that my maid was not coming back as I had felt then!

And when I told the kids the news, all of them gave a BIG "YEAYYYYYY!!!! Makcik Anis is not coming back ever!!! YEAAAAYYYY!!!"

The kids REALLY, REALLY, REALLY didn't like her. And mind you, our kids are not those type who are that particular about maids before this.

It feels so peaceful around the house now.

Bersepah a bit. But, VERY peaceful :)

GOOD RIDDANCE, I tell you :)

23 comments:

Ayah said...

This is a huge blessing in disguise, dear.. We'll get a better one for you. Just be cool & patient and stay wonderful as always... :)

Pp said...

saya yg baca dari jauh ni pun menggelegak hangat hati....yes Wan Shana...goodriddance to her whatever her name is~!

adakah????!!!

Kmar said...

Shana,

Bila I baca cerita you, I pulak yang ´meluap-luap´ geram especially about throwing food away.

Gosh.. can´t she think twice?? Rezeki tu tuhan bagi and if she can´t value it.. then.. rezeki for her in the future memang ´tertutup´ terus...

Lega, you dah get rid of her... really happy for you and your family.

Btw, anak kucing kat atas bumbung tu dah turun ke??.. he.he..

Amy said...

Aiyohh, sakit betul hati bila baca. Betul, good riddance!

cekmekzue said...

morning dear! I like 'mangkuk' too, if you get what I mean. can't make myself say the other nasty words, mangkuk is the nastiest i think:-).I share your feelings, my third one was somewhat similar to your case and she's no longer with us, after a brief two to three months I think.still phobia to get a new one, Now, rumah bersepah, a bit, penat, a lot but jiwa tak kacau.....hang in there...

hanazita said...

Kak Shana,
You should have taken her mug shot and post it here and in FB. Nanti takde la orang lain yg terkena dgn maid ni.
Actually think we should all post our problematic maid photo up esp after they run away or 'nak balik indon sebab mak/anak/laki etc sakit', because I think that's only an excuse for them to come back and work illegally here.

ibu,mommy,mom... said...

Hello..
Berdegup kencang I dengar your story about the hopeless maid:)

Yeah good riddance to her.
Hope you are tenang now not having to deal with a maid yang tak sedar diuntung.

Anonymous said...

Salam,

My maid ran away about 2 months ago and I still haven't had a replacement. Serik sangat2. Tak sanggup nak go through the whole episode over and over again like you described. But you surely have a lot more patience and grace in you than I probably would have if I were in your situation.

The kids like it the way it is now. I get a daily helper to come in the afternoon to do the laundry and basic housekeeping a few hours a day during weekdays. On weekends I do all on my own. On weeknights the kids help set up the table, clean up, lock up etc.

It is very tiring especially since I have to clean up after cooking as well. I have to do all the food preparation as well. But I would take that anytime over a maid who is problematic. Remember ,penat badan kalau hati tak sakit is better than badan tak penat tapi jiwa tertekan.

Anyway I count my blessings. Maidless is better than driverless anytime.

Good luck to you. The maid clearly did not deserve your generosity and insyaallah Allah will reward you with something better.

Rose

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

Sounds familiar, especially when they come from that part of the world (Kg Kayu Ara), with an introducer and of course, the Middle Woman (which goes by the name of Rohani or some shit). At least Kak Shana boleh bersabar sikit. If she had found her way here and worked with my mom, it takes less than a day before she is sent back, on her own!

My mom kata diorang ni dah tak boleh bagi muka.

wanshana said...

Ayah dear,

Thanks so much, especially for closing one eye to the mess at home, and never complaining if things are not done as they should be done :)

Yeah, I'm cool about the whole thing...Any cooler and I'd freeze. Hehehe!

wanshana said...

Pak Payne,

Memang panas hati and sakit jiwer, but, I had to bersabar ajer mengenangkan she was helping me out at home. That time, I was only thinking of convenience, rather than my mental health. Hehehe...

Feel so lega now :)

wanshana said...

Kmar,

Thanks. Yes, the whole family lega now :)

Tu lah tu! I cannot understand why she likes to throw away food! And I found that a lot of Indon helpers do the same, not just her. Adakah hidup they all teramatlah senang and dilimpah rezqi melimpah-ruah that they feel they can just throw away food like that! I guess because kita yang keluar duit, so, they don't feel that they're wasting THEIR money! Geram betul I!

The lil' cat is still up on the roof la, Kmar :( Have to feed her/him twice a day. I just hope he/she wouldn't be too dependent on me sampai tak nak belajar turun from the roof! Jenuh...

wanshana said...

Amy,

Memang sakit hati, gatal kepala, panas telinga dan segalanya...

I bought her some clothes the first few days she was with us, and baru terfikir nak belikan new undies for her. Nasib baik tak beli!

wanshana said...

Kak Zue,

Letih kepala and letih badan nak deal with these kind of maids, kan? Memang mangkuk hayun...

So, I'll be sending all the school uniforms and Haizal's work shirts to the laundrette again this Friday. Back to the old routine.
Tapi tak aper. Hati tak sakit :)

You hang in there, too, Kak Zue, okay? :)

wanshana said...

Hana,

Yes, I should have, but, unfortunately I didn't have her mug shot. I'll definitely do that should I get a new maid nanti.

You're right, they all ni semua kaki auta belit tahap tertinggi. I don't think they feel anything creating up stories and lying. Dah selalu sangat sampai tak fikir dosa...

wanshana said...

Hello Ibu, Mommy, Mom,

Yes, more tenang now, thank you :)

Hope your heart rate has stabilized! :) Maybe I should put a caution - those who have hypertension should take their medication before reading the posting! Hehehe!

Sometimes I wonder myself why lah I put up with all these maid nonsense, and still bagi muka kat they all after all that had happened before this. Too kesian kat they all. I did tell myself to toughen up with them, tapi tak terbuatlah pulak :(

wanshana said...

Salams Rose,

Thank you for your do'a. Amin. Insya Allah.

Yes, it is very tiring, especially when we come back from work and have to prepare the meals at home, and cleaning up and tidying up after that. No joke, kan?

I kept on telling myself to just start doing what you're doing - getting daily or weekend help, but never really tried it. I think high time I get some info and contacts on this.

For me, weekend help would be a better option as there won't be anyone at home on weekdays to supervise the cleaner. I'll probably get one to do the sweeping/mopping/dusting, and more importantly - IRONING and FOLDING the clothes soon.

For the time being, we're back at square one whereby the kids have to be deposited at my MIL's everyday after school. We managed before, and insya Allah we'll manage, too, this time :)

All the best to us, and may Allah give us and all who are in the same predicament as us all the patience to go through this, insya Allah :)

Thanks again, Rose :)

wanshana said...

Kerp!!!

Akhirnya you telah keluar dari pertapaan! Hehehe! How are the "projects" getting on? (the 'personal' project AND the working project? :))

The introducer in my case goes by the name of Bedah, but, they probably belong to the same group anyway.

Hmmmm...I like your Mom. Memang tak boleh bagi muka kat they all ni sebenarnya, but, I ni cepat kesian :( Patut bagi kasut ajer kat they all ni, kan?

Just in case, nasib I dapat maid mangkuk lagi, can I get your mom to deal with the maid, please? :)

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

Working extra HARD on both projects...hahhahha...

Anyway, we're blessed with a maid who's been with us for more than a decade. Mom thought it would do bibik a favor if we get her an 'assistant' but after going through numerous bad experience dealing with these people, might as well to just stick with one. bibik doesnt really mind and at the same time we give her as much freedom. that really works as now she is more relaxed and kerja pon jalan.

Naz said...

Shana,
good riddance, indeed! phew....

Desert Rose said...

isy isy tak boleh cakap sebab gerrrammm sangat

ibu,mommy,mom... said...

ha ha ha dah stabalize my heart rate..hehe:)

You're just too good a woman to not kesiankan orang..thats why you give chances and chances
Tak apa,GOD is great,insya ALLAH suatu hari dapatlah maid yang terbaik.

D.N.A.S said...

Oh... Deja Vu sekejap.
Y'know what, after i fired my brengsek bibik in March, I went to the agent and told her to send the bibik to work with Chinese family yang cerewet. Lagi cerewet lagi bagus. Biar dia sedar langit tu tinggi ke rendah.
And guess what, the agent sent her for one week trial with a new employer, she was rejected. Then sent to another one. Also rejected. The agent had no choice but to send her back to Indon. Although I didn't get my deposit back, I was satisfied. Padan muka dia. Setakat RM550 gaji yang I bagi bulan March tu je lah rezeki dia kat Malaysia.
I am going to post her pic on my blog so that nobody would hire her (at least ppl who read my blog would be warned...)
Hehehehe... I memang evil...