* Note : What's written below tidak ada kena mengena samada dengan yang masih hidup atau yang sudah mati, hokey? Harap maklum! Sekian :)
I was moved to write this after a few observations of late, which I think are quite normal (apparently), which I personally think should not be (normal, that is).
I would like to throw an innocent question -
What do you think, or how would you feel if your spouse gets SMSes or e-mails from his/her friends/colleagues/staff/bosses (of the opposite sex, mind you) for no apparent reasons?
The messages may seem to be harmless, and could be as short as just saying, "Hi", "Hey", etc, or even bizarre if they're just one single Emoticon, e.g. :), or ;), or :p and the likes. You got my drift?
How would you feel if you were to come across these short "messages" on your spouse's phone or e-mail?
Would you think that there's nothing to it? Or would you be suspicious?
I, personally, will not be comfortable with the whole thing. AND I'll be suspicious.
To me, the shorter the messages, the more personal and the more intimate they are, and NO Tom, Dick or Harry should send them to me, and NO Mary, Jane or Jill should send them to my husband, ESPECIALLY without his or my knowledge, respectively.
I wouldn't send single word stand-on-its-own messages to my married male friends/staff/bosses out of the blue. Would you? The likes of "Hi...", "Salam", "Hey..."
I guess, if I or my husband were to be open about it and we show and share the messages we get, it's a different matter somewhat, because it will mean that the messages or e-mails are casual e-mails and mean nothing to us.
I find it disturbing that there are people out there who do send such messages to other people's husbands or wives. Even more disturbing if the senders themselves are already married.
I really don't know what their motives are for doing this. But, I guess it goes back to my previous posting here.
Do they send such messages to all their friends/colleagues/staff/bosses? Or just the selected ones? If it is the latter, well, the more bizarre it is, then. Don't you think?
I don't know, maybe the messages ARE harmless, but, I still think that they are VERY inappropriate.
If this means that I'm old-fashioned, then, be it - I AM old-fashioned then.